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(my last article from kathmandu post)

RAMKALEE RAMESH

The lawn of the college was a perfect place for our serious discussions. We sitting in a circle of guys and girls cracking jokes. Suddenly the topic entered “the personality of our Prime Minister Prachanda”. Binita ice breaked about his sex appeal. We laughed and Khimu said “sex appeal at the age of 60s ha ha ha….” but I was seriously thinking his personality.

A few months ago I was invited by some very venerable, very spiritual older women to join a “group”—a sort of theological, scriptural study thing that met once a week to discuss a spiritual text chosen by the group. The reasons why I was asked to join this group is unclear, considering (a) I can’t really keep secrets about anything I do (b) My family isn’t exactly what you would call “in good standing” with the other members of our ward right now. Still, my mother tells me that the group is quite exclusive, and that my invitation was an unprecedented honor. So I was in very serious mind. But my seriousness was flied away when I saw a girl there. I don’t know anything about her but I was attracted. I talked with a person nearby me about her. But he told me that she is a prostitute. I was shocked but this wouldn’t make any effects on my attraction over her. When I expressed him my feelings, he said “due to her sex appeal”. Now I realized this topic was worth a discussion. “What is sex appeal? How can a person have a good sex appeal?” I murmured.

When we see someone that is very social and strangely seductive, maybe they are not good looking, but they have something that makes we feel attracted and jealous of them. Yeah, that's sex appeal. That much-desired special something that makes heads turn and hearts throb. That certain aura that emanates so strongly from a man that a woman gets weak-kneed, and that sensual femaleness that can make a guy forget his prior commitments is all what we call sex appeal.
Psychiatrists agree that being beautiful doesn't guarantee sex appeal, which, they say, is actually a reflection of a person's inner confidence and positive feeling about himself or herself. Attraction to others is more than just a beautiful face and fine physique. The person who doesn't feel lovable or good enough doesn't project sex appeal. It's important that you feel good about yourself, and if you do, others will be attracted to you. You will have sex appeal.
Whatever it is that makes a women uniquely herself--is indeed the first erogenous zone. A man is intrigued and challenged by a woman who is an interesting person in her own right, whose personality has enough depth to provide that essential ingredient for any successful relationship between men and women--the masculine need for meaningful conquest. The woman who relies on the appeal of physical conquest alone finds that this appeal is very short-lived. Health, vanity, happiness and a "dash of imperfection" all combine to enhance a woman's sex appeal.
Some tips to enhance the sex appeal
Confidence is the most important. It can give you the necessary presence, charm, charisma and sex appeal you want. Being confident in yourself, not only in your looks, but also in your own person, is always important. When you like yourself and you are sure that your qualities are cool, then you will be able to let them be noticed and don't hide them. Tell yourself that you're beautiful and think of why people should like you for you. Attractiveness is not just about physical qualities. Charisma, magnetism and confidence are far more attractive than a stereotypically *beautiful* person with a nasty attitude
Meet new people for fun! Look at strangers and make eye contact with them and smile easily. Greet them. It will give you more confidence, besides; doing it is a way of connection that will make it easier to get to meet people. Don't force yourself to appear sexy or something, just have a good time and also don’t hide your natural sex appeal.
Always keep a positive attitude and smile. Sexy people usually smile often. Don't take things too seriously, try to smile easily and laugh more often. Even if you don't feel your best, try to think of positive things more often.
Stand tall and be observant if you find someone that may have been glancing your direction, walk over and start a conversation. *The best line to use is "Hi my name is (state your name clearly and confidently) and how are you?" Try to be true to others. Don't try to be someone you're not..
Keeping your eyes halfway open is very sexy. This does not mean that looking as if you're on drugs or tired, but keeping them slightly less that completely open, relaxed. This gives off the message that "there's something good I'm hiding" and a little mysterious, which guys love. Then, when you're actually talking to someone, open your eyes wide.
It is good to look quite nice; it can really make you feel better about yourself. Try to try something new, like a new haircut or new wardrobe. Do something new on your looks, but you have to feel beautiful and find yourself pretty.
Being shy won’t help you. it will hurt you. If you want to meet new people, it's easy when you make the first move. Go up to them and have a talk, but be enthusiastic and real, and please, wipe off all your awkwardness and insecurities, and express yourself freely.
It is important to know what is hot and what's not. Remember, fashion is about wearing only what flatters you, since then you will feel comfortable and act more naturally.
Don't take things too seriously, try to smile easily and laugh more often. Even if you don't feel your best, try to think of positive things more often.